I understand all about the hard work of recovering from an SSM. I did all the recommended hard work and it didn't work. That's my point.
I agree with what you all say about an affair and its elements of secrecy, fantasy, indulgence, etc., because an affair usually involves deep emotions and feelings of owning someone and conflicting jealousies, etc. But a lot of that doesn't apply to the right kind of friend-with-benefits situation.
As for honor and integrity, I don't find that a convincing argument. Where's the honor and integrity of splitting up your family just so dad can have sex a few hours a week?
Still, I would like to get my marriage back to where I have sex in it, not outside of it. But that's just not in the cards. So I'm doing the best I can.
