The last time I got firmly grounded in that way of being, I had women swarming around me. I had to (metaphorically speaking) swat them away like gnats and misquitoes (the madding horde). Note that I didn't advertise that I had nothing to offer, I was just being that. I was not God's gift to anyone and when I dropped any pretense that I was something special, that is when people see me as most special. I know it's a paradox.
Your life feels the smoothest when you are at your most authentic.
I've only learned this really recently, but this amazing thing happens when you surrender - and just be you - the you you expect yourself to be. There is nothing wrong with expectations of yourself - we fall over when we have expectations of others.
Your examples are fantastic, teaching, weekend project – you have an outcome in mind – and you use your unique skills and experience to take you there.
Our life is like that too. I don’t think we need to spend a lot of time worrying about all the steps along the way – we just need to have a clear vision for how it should work out in the end and put the arrangements in place we need to get there.
Use the analogy of the weekend project as an analogy for your life. You accepted your responsibility for the task and the outcome. I suspect you also scanned for risks and barriers – and got those out of the way. Like – you recognised what that guy needed for him to feel comfortable contributing to your outcome and you gave him what he needed – assurance he could trust you – but importantly you trusted yourself.
That’s what this is down to. When we trust our self explicitly, and know that the life we are living is for our best possible good – we are on the way to fulfilment.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
