How does one appropriately respond when one's W tells you she sees you as effeminate and doubts your sexuality? (I mean respond during the discussion itself)
(Note, this is not an accusation thrown in anger, but a quiet, almost scared admission on her part)
Does one...
A) Laugh, cringe inwardly, assure her you are heterosexual, and then never bring up the subject again? (this is what I tried the first time)
B) Validate and ask for more information? "You are saying that...I can understand that this would make you feel scared and unattracted...can you give me more details" - an uncomfortable discussion at best, and could actually exacerbate the problem (to Gucci's point above)
C) Respond that she is being disrespectful...?
D) Get angry and indignant?
None of them seem terribly appropriate.
My gut instinct says "Don't hide from it, be willing to discuss it openly and understand her point of view, but at the same time state clearly that you couldn't disagree more"
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
