Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Hi Aliveandkicking,

Just responding to your posts:

There may be something there with the finances. In our past, I made the money and she handled the budgeting. That was fine then, but recently our expenses (with kids and a new house) have increased faster than my income, so it has become more of a stress, and with her focus on her mom etc, I know my W is tired of her role as chief accountant. With her consent, I am now stepping into this role. I am firing up quicken this afternoon, and starting to dig in and understand the details of where we are financially.

Taking control of things financially may be part of "manning up" - and it may also just be part of preparing myself for a future D. In either event, I need to do it.

(Don't worry Sara, this isn't going to create a fight between me and Mrs. Thinker - she is asking for the help)

As far as letting my disdain show, and practicing tough love - both are things I need to work on. I am pretty good at "dispassionate" and can do "angry" , but calm, cool distain isn't something I am used to showing.

Onward and forward...