Thank you. It really helps to have a place to vent and be heard and understood. The temptation to talk to my pastor is STRONG (this woman works for her - who knows what damage she could do to her too), though I will not do it. Nor will I communicate with any of them any longer. As you say - it is like hitting your head against a brick wall. We all know how this went with our spouses - imagine it multiplied by 10 or so where everyone eggs each other on and encourages bad behaviour. I am glad that no one else responded (yet) and I maintain that my letter to them was professional and gave me one chance to let them know how disappointed I am in being lied to. Well - so much for that.
3 sleepless nights so far. But I have guests coming from British Columbia tommorrow for a couple of days so I have a lot to do - cleaning and decluttering, cooking, shopping and doing all those things that make them feel special. I like doing that.
Josh and I went to see Julie & Julia and loved it. Then we went to friends' home for dinner & bbq. She is one of my best friends and he was Chuck's best friend. He told us something interesting last night (drinking sometimes does that). He told me he has talked to Chuck a couple of times since he left me although they are not friends anymore (he has always been very accepting of Josh and they get along well). He told me that maggot is not a nice person (we were talking about someone else we knew who had an affair and he thought OW in that case WAS nice). I told him he had probably heard that from me and how would I REALLY know anyway. But he told us that Chuck had told him that she was not a good person and that prior to hitting on him, she had hit on many other men including her pastor. I knew this of course but knowing he told Peter was BIZARRE at best.
Ex is NUTS! Keeps telling Ashley this week how he likes SIMMINI mushrooms on his steak. She keeps saying "Dad, it is CREMINI, not SIMMINI" and he just says "Oh Yeah" then calls it wrong again. She and Brandon keep laughing at his craziness and recall an episode just before we split where he kept calling dinner "Menniteranean" almost like he was plugging his nose while he was saying it. We all corrected him so many times he got furious and stormed out of the house and although he DOES NOT have a speech impediment - the kids keep telling me of similar brain malfunctions on his part that drives them nuts. And of course - that is only when they see him which is NOT OFTEN.
Back to cleaning. Try not to think about hate-filled people.
