Okay, Oz, repeat after me:

MLCers lie. It is not about me.

MLCers lie. It is not about me.

MLCers lie. It is not about me.

I don't know if your H is in MLC, and it really doesn't affect the way you need to operate, but sometimes it helps to just assume that the WAS is MLC.

I know it is rough, it is painful, it is excruciating. Earrings in the pants pocket probably mean OW, and that is even more excruciating. Just breathe. Realize that in this one moment, you are okay. You do not have to solve all of your problems right now. Just breathe.

Then, go over to MLC resources and read about what to do and how to help yourself get through it. Here's a link for that:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436

You may need to go back to the beginning of some of those threads referenced in the link--I think somehow they mostly got linked to the middle or end of the thread instead of the first page.

Be kind to yourself.

Peace and blessings,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1