I get a very strong inkling that I unintentionally hurt your feelings very badly when we were talking about finances. That inkling came up again reading your last SMS. I want to make sure you understand what I was trying to say. I was not including you as an "expense". I was trying to discuss our home budget. If I hurt your feelings with my crappy verbal skills, I sincerely apologise.
Stuff just seems to keep happening each day, some good, some downright confusing, I guess it makes life interesting at the moment.
Your disco that is being organised sounds like fun. I went to an Eagles tribute band show a couple of weeks ago and had the best time. Lots of dancing great fun. It is amazing what things like that can do in lifting your mood 100%.
I'm not sure how you would word it when asking your W to go but it needs to be very casual, almost giving her the idea to ask if she could come, getting her interest up in the event.
Hope you have had a good day.
Will check in again as soon as I can, H hangs around me a bit more now, which makes it darn hard to come online and check out what is happening.
Just been GAL'ing with best friends of ours. Their S was one on Wednesday - and he had ANOTHER 1 today with the rest of the family. More smiles on the little one's face.
Hope everything is going as well with you.
Gonna get some shut eye - had to work this morning
For some reason I had a tramp over to MLC and saw this.
All I can say is wow!
Originally Posted By: snodderly
IRMAT, To answer your question as to why the op has so much control...simple, our runaway spouses look to them as saviors, i.e., they listen, validate, affirm and egg them on to do things that they might not have done had they been in their right minds. The op is most likely just like them...seeking someone to feed off of. Euphoria plays a major role in the lusting relationship that they have, true love is very, very different from the endorphins pulsating a high rate of speed. Think about it...young love or puppy love, people go out of their way to impress the op and will do or say anything for that special attention. Control? Yes, the op person uses that euphoria to get what they want. When the endorphins settle down, that's when the curtain on this show goes down, lights come up and the real relationship begins w/all of the warts and scars showing.
Do not worry about the control issue, it will crack some day when and if they come to their senses and they see the light of day once more.
"X, x thanks for a great night. Helped me take my mind off things. Tell x he's a great braai monster :-). The girls loved the snoek and so did I. See u tomorrow. Thanks again. Appreciated. Mac."
Looks like I sent to the next number up on my phone book because this came back from W.....
"Sorry wrong number."
And she replied from the bottom of the black hole. Ow - that hurt
If you reply just do it with very few words "sorry about that" but I certainly wouldn't offer reasons or anything. But I could be wrong here as I seem to have developed a case of doing what I shouldn't do today.
