I get the desire to strike back. Part of me wishes I had made the call to get my H fired from his job for sleeping with a lower-level coworker after being warned to stay away from each other (see? even the boss at his work new something was up even though he denied it)...part of me still wants to call his two best cattle partners, they would pull so far away from him if they new and his dream would be gone...
I haven't done it yet just because he is my kids' dad. But I understand you wanting to hurt him.
Agree LolaL....that book is great. His section on how our 'hope for reconciliation' is a form of denial was life changing for me. FIB
F-Me too. After all the excuses we all make, to see that chapter in print was eye opening. Maria I loved this book, and it really does help.
(((((hugs))))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Wish I'd read it when I was being jerked back and forth. Too late now to help anything, but good to know it's a good book in case I need to refer anyone.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Mishka...its still a really good book. I recommend it to anyone who is moving on. You can get it cheap from Amazon...I think I paid two bucks for my copy. I have read my share of self help books, but this one really helped with the healing part.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
The wedding band saved her from having a dead finger.
Did this seem to have special significance to anyone else, or is it just me??
Maria, I don't have any great wisdom to pass on, as so many others have already said the things I think about your sitch, but I just want to let you know that I am thinking of you often and praying for you and your kids, that you will be comforted and guided and will come out of all this so much better off, whatever happens. I truly hope for the very best for you; you deserve it.
Peace and blessings, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I wrote him a letter yesterday. In that letter, nothing was exaggerated, no lies, no my side. If I had received that letter, lets say... I would seriously be thinking of killing my self. I may post it here sometime...
Yesterday we had a sms fight about kids. he wants them for 10 days. When all hell broke loose, I told him i want him to have them for a month so that I can relax and regroup. He said yes. Now he tells me he is leaving on Seot 3 and wont be back till the 10th. So he intends to get them for 10 days. I said no. I lied and said I will be away coming back on the 6-7 because I was counting he will at least keep them for 15 days. He said he cant. I said I am sorry I will be away. He had the nerve to tell me I knew about the trip, I reminded him there were other things I didnt know back then and a lot has changed. I told him he is on his own, to find a solution as I did for years. He got furious. I am pretty sure he would have hit me if he could reach me.
For him it is a hostility gesture. For me it is NOT saving him. He has this notion, I will just roll on my other side, say 'what is done is done" and continue to be his babysitter. No sir. His responsibilities are his to own. My parents are out of the picture, it's just me and the kids and he will have either to step up or pay.
My stomach has been a knot for so long it's starting to feel normal. I know I need to 'drop it', but I dont know how. I know it is consuming me but I cant control it. I know I shouldnt waste another minute of my life for him, but....
