A, I'm very sorry to hear this. It sounds to me like you aren't really ready to date yet--too much baggage still hanging aroun from your H...not that it sounds like he is letting things settle down for you with his antics. Maybe just give the dating thing a rest for a while until you feel more detached from H?

Sending you warm thoughts and prayers.

Peace,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
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