My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Whoa, gooch, that's a lot to digest!! Most of it makes me feel pretty good (with the occasional struggle with #6 of course!--many of us who were left for someone else probably have a bit to overcome in #6). Some of it doesn't necessarily transfer over to those of us who are of a certain age, or who live hundreds of miles apart.

Thanks for taking the time to read and to share something so detailed. I hope others can find it useful as well.

I have an advantage in having known this guy for about 25 years now. Yeah, during most of that time we had no contact, lol!! but in terms of consistency and growth, we see each other from the perspective of who we used to be and who we have become. Back then we had a very good friendship (no benefits...) and it feels as if we've picked that up where it left off. Except that we're grownups now and appreciate each others' kindness more than we would have back then. He's always felt very safe, and reconnecting has felt like coming home again. And I'm inclined to trust those feelings.