He realized and took steps to disable IM so she can't see him online anymore.
Pain, have you read gForce's sitch? This guy turned things around in record time and was getting on with his life when his w realized that he wasn't kidding. He had taken a job out of state and was on that path, never wavering, when his w finally woke up. He did what he knew was right, even though it was so very difficult, and didn't knuckle under to his w.
He gained a lot of respect for that and this is what I'm talking about. Women don't respect weakness.
Here's his sitch, if you're interested. I found it so inspiring:
