Is there any appropriate action that she would take that would warrant a reaction from me?
I think I can answer that. I would suggest yes, there are. I email my H quite a bit re: the kids or financial stuff. We work out pickup/dropoff times and such. If someone emails you and says what time are you going to drop off the kids or something, of course you email that back. Or if they need a copy of tax info to file taxes or something, you email that. Also, I used to always be the first one to email re: the kids and I realized that and stopped it. I found that he started emailing me re: the kids when I didn't initiate. At first at the last minute, but now he's basically taken over my role in emailing I think, and I only respond if there's a need.
But you don't ever do chit-chat or like in your last email you said you responded to her "hi". There's no need to respond to something like that. What you did was fine, but not going "nc" or dark. Keep working at it and you get gradually better at this, or at least that's what I found to happen.
Plus, have you read Divorce Remedy yet? That'll help too. Karen
