I'm glad you posted. I've been wondering how things had been going. I know you loved your home, but it's time to put that chapter of life behind you. A rental is the way to go for now and soon the market will change once again and you can search for the right home for you and the boys. A home that you can actually call your home w/no strings attached to the xh.
He just might be a "Peter Pan" for the rest of his life. Many of the things that he has done/said remind me so much of my xh. BTW, stepping off the coaster will give you a whole new insight to life. The burden will lighten once you've moved and settled into your new place.
The end of August is just around the corner and school will be in session once again. I do hope that you and your family are doing well. Please stay in touch. Hugs to you and the boys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.