73, Sorry to find you here, but that is how life goes. You appear to be a fine job and listen to the advice you are getting. I mean really listen. As they have previously stated, DB'ing is about you..healing...rebuilding...strengthening...improving. The first thing I would highly recommend is dropping the rope to your wife completely...affairs don't matter...staying out all night doesn't matter...Those things will affect her, but have no true impact on you in the end (I know you are hurting, but once you realize this you will be on a good path). Let her live her life....It is time for you to prioritize yours and start living it. Once I realized that I was a single parent (she still lives here though) and that everything depended on me...I was better off. Not expecting help with kids or house makes it easy when you don't get any.
Start gal'ing...and when you think you are doing enough...double it. For myself, once I get through a day of housework, doing stuff with the kids, taking care of my small business, working out, and cooking there is really no time to think about my wife. Take things with your kids to a new level.....do stupid things a grown up wouldn't do...your kids will love. Just today I stood up in my jeep (the top was down) and started dancing and singing to the new black eyed peas song at a stop light. My kids loved, I loved it....enjoying life is what it is all about. Get busy!
Have a great weekend...I think I am gonna take the kids for a ride
