My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

okay, anyone know how to avoid the rebound effect in subsequent relationships? I don't have a lot of room for error these days--I have to be the parent to show D13 a healthy relationship, since her father is doing such an abysmal job in that area. Besides, I don't need any more heartbreak--or to cause any further heartbreak! And this current "relationship" or whatever it is, has serious potential--if I don't destroy it with my insecurity and baggage. I've heard that one should wait a year for each 5 years of marriage before entering another committed relationship (altho I'm thinking that was a fairly random guideline) which gives me another 2 years. Which I can do, but y'know, I'd like to do this--if I do--before entering a nursing home!! So any other guidelines anyone's heard, aside from taking things slowly, doing the work, figuring out and working on what I did to contribute to the death of my marriage, and lots of prayer?!

And no, I don't feel that I NEED a man in my life to be whole. I would not have gone looking for a relationship at this point, not ready to date, but this one kinda fell into my lap and so far has been such a blessing. Besides, it's "green"--I'm recycling an old friendship!!