As you all know, today was the day Dan had an appt. with his attorney. I have no clue how it went as I have not asked...
Today I was out with the kids and he texted me at 5:30--"What are you and the kids doing and are you camping this weekend"
This is 'my' Fri/Sat with the kids, I also had them last night (Thurs). I had talked about going to the church campout Sat. night. However I since found out it was on someone's farm, not at a campground.
I have NEVER taken the kids camping alone and would prefer that the first time I do it somewhere with showers, bathrooms, etc etc. Plus the church people would ask "Where's Dan?" b/c I haven't told anyone at church except the pastor, and I am not in the mood to do that over a campout.
So I just replied back "We are going out to dinner later for Dad's birthday. Decided not to camp."
He replied back, "Ok, have fun"
No clue what he wanted. But I let him know we were busy...
Nice dinner, now I am putting kids to bed. Tomorrow my cousin invited me shopping with her and her SIL, Nathan will go play with my cousin's kids and her husband. Sydney will come along shopping. Good times.
BBJ
Unless it is truly need to know info for Dan when he asks these questions, then no response is really necessary. IMO ..you are feeding in to the games that he wants to play. This ..being a dimwit dufus H and father from a distance and essentially in absentia is BS. Don't play along with it. Shut it down ..lights out on ole Danny boy. Let him try and find his way around in the dark. It is his choosing to be in the dark, so let him deal with it. Don't enable the behavior. I am not saying to be nasty but just let his distant voice trail off and fade. If he feels like the communinication is not what he would like it to be between himself and his family, then make him adjust what he is doing. Don't you be the one to make adjustments in what you are doing to make things better for him. He is not entitled to that luxury anymore. But if he wants it bad enough he will have to switch around what he is doing. Don't bend for him. Make him do all the lifting and the working. In due time we will know what he is constructing or destructing. It will be born out soon enough. You step back from his crap and let him do all the maneuvering ..whatever it might be.
