What you write and your feelings are so familiar to me. I spent countless hours agonizing on the same types of things. Why does she text this or that...why this .... why that.....at the end of the day you need to somehow get away from that pattern. MAybe turn your mobile off after 9;00? If there is an emergency, folks can reach you at home. I don't know, even today texts and e-mails from Ex affect me (much less than they used to). they affect me in a way that bothers me. They take up more time, more of my thoughts than they should. I hope some of this made some sense to you.