I know it gets to him but then what? How do I handle his acting out (which he eventually drags the kids into by doing things with them that he knows I don't want him to, asking me if it is ok if he does those things, brings up other women he's interested in etc).
waaa, I wish you could do this for me. LOL.
Funny. I wish I could too.
You have to handle him like you would a little child. Children do the same types of things (especially little boys) to get your attention mommy.
The CORRECT answer is agree WITH his views. (he will then want to take the opposit view of that too.
Just HAPPILY agree with what he wants to do with the kids. He will do what he wants to anyway, so disagreeing with him is only feeding his ego. Learn to agree... "I don't care if that is what you want to do with them this weekend. Sounds good to me. Have fun. Anyway, I was just walking out the door. Talk to you later. ta ta."
Regarding other women comments.. "Good for you. She can have you. Hey, I am on the other line and need to go. Talk to you later. ta ta."
And then of course, you need to bring some of your own social interaction into the picture. It is only when you bring your own social interaction into the picture that things will move in YOUR direction. What he does to you will be the very things that drive HIM crazy. No doubt about it.
Other than that. Ignore him. Do not respond. Don't even read his emails. Let him call you 3 or 4 times without returning calls or answering the phone. Let him wonder why he can't get to you anymore. Why you are SO happy to GET OFF the phone. Why you are so busy without him. Why you don't care what he says he is going to do with the kids. Why he can't push your buttons......
Come on. Get on the program. Talkng to him will be a wste of time. Nothing gets accomplished by trying to be the better arguer. Learn to agree happily and stay busy in his eyes.
