Reconciliation after divorce

[mamanpc]

hi Bonny

Would it make him take notice if you were getting along fine without him? Either you doing the jobs yourself (independent) or having someone else in your life that could "take his place" and take care of those things instead of him?

i agree with Irish - demonstrating that you can get along fine without him might make him get interested in you again. BUT it could take some time.

In my sitch, i was the one with the MLC, and i agree that when a person is in MLC, it's all about them and they are not interested in how it's making anyone else feel. The big turnaround for me was when H started a R with a neighbor 10 days after I announced my departure. I wouldn't recommend this approach to anyone - it's taken 1+year to get to a point where we are reconciling and enjoying each other's company again.

I am only trying to illustrate how true the remark of Irish is: show that you are fine without him, ideally cheerful and 'ready to move on' and that will eventually spark H's curiosity. In other words, 'GAL' like Michele says in her Divorce Remedy book.
And i used Michele's telephone coaching also, it was a lifesaver for me.