Hmmm...what about the elephant? Other than your M being a farce (no offense, I've been there).
Anything that is not being handled?
I only say this because I know that was the problem for me. H would do little things here and there to try to impress me or be a good guy but there was so much that was not working (mostly finances) and I could tell that he was hoping a gesture here or there would appease me.
Now, I differ from your wife in that I have never wanted to divorce. However, I did talk about it, threaten, look online for places to leave, fantasize about leaving, nitpick and even taunt him at times.
I would bet a million bucks (if I had it) that she's whistling dixie and if you actually left, she'd be pining for you within about 5 minutes.
Aaargh, my H is a weenie but I also have to recognize that my expectation that men leave helped to bring that to fruition. I know I would have preferred to do Retro or try something so again your W and I may differ but there is something she thinks should be in your M that is not. She probably doesn't even know.
I think you should let your disdain show a little, not dispassion and not pouting but a little taste of her own medicine. I don't know any other way for you to man up other than filing for D yourself...
I don't know Thinker. I really feel that in my sitch I wanted to know that H valued the marriage above all else. I think you have articulated that and she is just jerking you around.
Perhaps read up on tough love. Yep, I think that would be a good approach.
