Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Oh, one other question...is there anything (think) that is not being handled in your life together (finances, decisions, medical)? I know in my sitch, the elephant in the room was our abysmal financial situation and it was at the root of my discontent. I felt anxious and lonely and like I was not being considered or taken care of. It felt like a lie that things were remotely ok when I knew the ship was sinking.

Any elephant in the room? Even an invisible one?

Finances, Sex and Children, the three big topics.

Finances are always a stressful topic for us, but are not particularly dire right now.

We mostly agree on how to manage the kids.

So the biggest stress topic on our M is Sex - currently based on her forcefully stated lack of attraction for me.

Your description of your H as "extremely physical but so wishy washy and he emanated a sort of lost puppy vibe so much of the time." could easily have applied to me over the past few years as she slowly pushed me away.

The real stress in her life right now is her mom's terminal cancer, following her fathers death only a few years ago. It has her absorbed both with feelings of loss over her parents, and fears of her own mortality.