Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

As far as I'm concerned, she is sabotaging your progress and potential (Retro), she is daring you to leave and calling you a pansy for staying.

Exactly - very well put!

Man up - check, no question.

Date? - no, we are still living together, and since she is not openly seeing anyone - just flirting around the edges and testing me - I am not going to escalate on her.

Dark? Pretty d@mn hard when we are living together, sleeping in the same bed, and cooperating daily to get the kids to school, etc. I did have almost no contact with her for 2 weeks while I was traveling.

Get out? - I'm not moving out - no way, no how.

Throw her out? - She wouldn't go and leave her kids - we already had that discussion.

So that leaves me "manning up within the confines of my own home". I'm at the point where I'm "already divorced" so I can confront her and non of her threats of leaving, divorcing me, etc. bother me, so I can have the hard discussions. I think I am more ready to leave the M than she is right now, and able to use D as my own ultimatum if necessary.

I just don't know what to confront her about. I can't really confront her about her feelings or demand that she change her opinion, and other than the FB issue, she is not doing anything other than telling me how she feels.

Everything else is my conjecture.

So, I agree and am in just the mood and have the confidence to take a firm stance, but feel like I am fighting vapor.