Wife dropped another bomb yesterday

[25yearsmlc]

So sorry you are in this sitch, but here's a few ideas...
Other books you may want down the road are "Manifest Your Destiny" by Wayne Dyer (which preceded "The Secret" and discusses more about how to manifest LOVE in your life and peace in the world, not so much about getting more wealth or a promotion or a new car, etc. (Not that I'm putting "The Secret" down, but it just amazes me that so many people were surprised by the premise b/c it is not new. IOW, Your thoughts affect you and your life, period, Directly or indirectly. Therefore, Change your thought patterns, and your life changes..which = PMA, obviously.)

For now, I highly recommend "Return to Love" by Marianne WIlliamson b/c it is about teaching you how to forgive, not just telling you to do it. You know you have to do forgive to detach OR move on successfully in the M. Or just to live happily...forgiveness is key no matter what. And you know enough to know that forgiveness is for YOU, not her or condoning her or not making her accountable (God's job, not yours). Forgiveness frees YOU...and only you can do it, with God's help. It is very empowering. If you don't like her writing, get something else on forgiveness.

Have you read the Five Love Languages by Chapman, also? I realize it may seem late for that, but it's not. ANd as I posted elsewhere to you, do you think she would attend Retrovaille? The couples there have seen some serious trouble, worse than yours my friend. Seriously. And they're still married and NOT miserable...Give it some thought and see if she'd consider it if you word it in a way that reveals you are not pressuring her to do anything but get there, b/c honestly, even if you do divorce, going to the Retrovaille weekend would soften her heart and yours, and that cannot be bad for your children. Whatever it takes, just get her there IF you can...and NO couple is turned down for lack of funds. I know this for a fact. After my h and I attended we donated anonymously, as did many other couples. (Our donation covered our costs and the costs of another couple, just for this reason.)
Good luck Razor (or LR1), and I'll check your thread later but can't now. IN fact am going on a "marriage retreat" with H tomorrow, so won't post for a few days.

If we can make it, and I think we have, you can.
j-