WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

When I picked up my 7 year old he was sad he didn't have his laptop. I text her to ask her to drop it off. She said she couldn't. He asked to call her and got extremely upset when she said she couldn't because of something I was doing. I told her to stop. He wants his laptop and is upset that he can not have it. That is your choice. Do not blame it on me

She said she was advised not to let me have access to it

I just hung up. She text asking to talk to my son. I asked if he wanted to talk. He said no as he had enough sadness already. That is what I text back

Tonite she called to say goodnite to the boys. My oldest asked about the laptop. She said no and he started crying and walked away from the phone. She asked to keep talking to him but I told her he walked away

She asked for him come back to say I love you. He came down and all he said ok and walked away. It was really crappy

[davidswife]

Who purchased the laptop for your son. I thought it was you.

I guess she's trying to close the barn door after the horse got out?

[Gnosis]

Cipa, this sound like her L talking. Be careful buddy, it looks like things are going to get nasty in the D. She's going to try spin the "he has been spying on me" routine.

Speak to your L about this. Remember she took it to the store to get it checked. Make sure you have your alibi set (I know you installed the software to keep your kids safe on the 'net, but make sure your L knows the motivation for it.)

BTW, I remember you bought it for the kids... so tell your L that she didn't have the right to use it for "personal stuff." Gotta cover your a.. now.

Now go enjoy the rest of the weekend with your sons.

[mindfull]

So, is it against the law to spy on her?

She's just ticked that she's caught.

[MrBond]

She is pissed but one day she's going to have to look back and look at herself and her behavior.

Unfortunately she'll be missing out on a good man while she's destroying everything. This really does sound like an MLC. That's why it's called a "crisis".

[confusedinpa]

I purchased the laptop as my 7 year old was having a really hard time not seeing me so we could Skype. He asked if he could play games on it so I installed the webwatcher so I could monitor his activity

I did tell my lawyer. He said I was good but would double check

[Gnosis]

Good for you CiPA. Since you're going to be fighting for custody of your children: This would make a nice item when the matter comes up.

Chances are good that she's going to be painting a picture of you as a bad father. Document this incident because she is causing your son unnecessary stress by depriving him of his toys.

You don't need to tell her what you are doing. I would recommend that you start recording and documenting all conversations with her from now until the custody hearing. If you lawyer hasn't advised you on this, then get yourself an attorney who has a GOOD track record of getting custody for the father.

Other than that, chill out and enjoy the kids. Find that strong CiPA with the good PMA whose posts I was reading from last month. I'd like to see you back in that power zone.

[confusedinpa]

Other than that, chill out and enjoy the kids. Find that strong CiPA with the good PMA whose posts I was reading from last month. I'd like to see you back in that power zone.

Thanks Gnosis

Only problem is that I don't remember that CIPA from last month

It is just so hard and I am so tired. I wish the heartache would just stop so I could take a break

[Tomato]

cipa

hope your time with the boys is as uplifting for you as it always seems to be.

Do not stop trying to find that strong, positive, confident cipa. Do not give up on trying to get rest ..that is something that I struggle with mightily also. Usually when I really have to break up the poor sleep habits and the strong desire to just get up and abandon the sleep efforts ..I force myself to put on the eye blinders and ear plugs and just get down to the business of getting the much neede sleep done and over with.

Keep loving them boys man. You are doing more than just surviving my friend .. you are growing. It is cool to see.

Breathe out the bad sh!+ and inhale some good clean rich air.

You got my number as well as numbers of others on here ..use them as you feel the need to get stuff off your chest. call anytime bro'. I am a night owl so don't worry about that.

Be well. I will support you and your's with prayer and in any other way you may need cipa.

man --> (((cipa)))

T

[confusedinpa]

T

I'm sorry I misses you when you were so close. I was actually still in NJ at that time

I appreciate all your support and will call you next week when I am in NY

Chatting with people does help. Especially good people

Enjoy the show tonite