Thanks Jeff. Apparently,as I understand it, there is a slight difference in that the kids live with you during the week instead of, eg, going home after an evening together. That is, if you have 50-50, and you get the kids 2-3 days during the week, the kids would pack up and sleep over. My L feels this is too disruptive. It would also mean that they live with you 50% of the time during the summer.

One of my friends said that...they can look at mom as the real parent and you as 'we just visit dad'. I've been here long enough to know that my kids love me and that wouldn't be the case. I also don't want to get caught up in the jargon.

Thanks for your input.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
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