Apologies again...and I don't remember how to modify the original post...so I'll continue from where I left off...
Anyway, she says that she is miserable and she thinks the misery is going to affect the children. She wants a divorce because she believes that the stress from our "dysfunctional" marriage is causing her health problems and misery. In turn, this is making things worse for the kids.
I tell her that divorce isn't good for anyone. It's a bad idea financially, it is going to be bad for the kids, and it's not going to cure her misery because any problem she has with me isn't going to go away just because we're divorced. I ask for a separation first, but she says no.
Then she says something that is beyond my comprehension. She says that she wants a divorce and though she cannot promise me anything that if I get my act together (a job, etc.), maybe in like a year we can see if it works again. She says that she needs the divorce to separate herself from me, because unless we are divorced she will think that any changes I make will only be to stop the divorce.
I tell her fine. But we have not discussed since.
However, she does drop little things here and there. Like I told her I wanted to see this movie and asked her if she wanted to go. She said okay. Then a bit later, I tell her I had the job interview. She asks if I can take the kids to my parents with me (I needed to print something on their computer) and I tell her I can and ask where she's going. She gets mad and hangs up. Then she calls back and tells me "I need to know what's going on. First you ask me to see that movie, and now you're questioning where I'm going. I'm happy you got that interview, but I need you to know that nothing's changed. I want to make sure we're on the same page."
I told her that I asked if she wanted to see the movie because I thought she had mentioned that she wanted to see it. I asked where she was going because I was just curious. I wasn't keeping track, I just asked out of habit, I guess.
Then when I got the job on Thursday, her first remark was that we could put the kids on my insurance and she can just leave herself on hers. I tell her that with the plan if you go over two people, it fits under family, so it doesn't cost anything. She says she knows that.
So that's where I stand. I can elaborate. I hope Kassie and StillLovesHim are still around. I could use your input.
