DID XH M OW or not??

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I think I would try a couple sleepovers and see how they go before doing it on a permanent basis.

Peace, sometimes they are very honest about their new spouses and sometimes they aren't. Look at my xh....I've only tricked him a couple of times in 10 years to even admit he's married. He never mentions her when he communicates with me...it's always "I did this, I traveled here or I go here"...never "we".

Let him go. He's no good to you the way he is. After all the ow has given you a gift...she's taking care of him while he's ill. You didn't need that full time in your life or your kids' lives.