I'm not upset that he is seeing someone, per se. I do not question that he stays with her at her house every night that he does not have the kids. He keeps telling me that it's "not serious" but he really likes her. He has sent me SO many mixed and confusing signals, I really don't know what to think. I am trying hard to give him the space he needs to figure it all out.
My problem was the sleeping in MY bed. They have a place (her house) to be together. She does not like coming over to "his" house because my things are still there. I have been living in a bedroom at my parents' house, with my kids in an adjoining bedroom. I did not take my things from the house because it just felt vindictive and not right for the kids when they came over. I feel like it is a respect issue - I am freely letting him use my things, including my bed, and I don't understand why he has to sleep with her in it when they have another place with no issues. Is that clearer?
They had a big fight and he told me we "might have to start thinking about" getting my things put in a storage unit. I told him to just let me know, I had been leaving them there to be kind. He understood that but she does not. Oh well, go ahead and rock the boat and throw fits, OW! Let's give him some more to think about!
Doing much better not calling him. Have texted him each morning a short thank you for letting me use the house, let him know I would probably not stay there tonight. He called me each day and we had a short chat, he initiated all the subjects and I said goodbye first. Seems hard, but I can remember a month ago when he would not even look at me and would NEVER call me. So I am making progress.
I know from his friend that he is still confused and does not know what he wants. He has told me that he and the OW talk a lot and her house is a "neutral" place. Does not make sense to me.
