I think the lying somehow becomes such a habit they don't even think that once again they are doing it. Case in point, my ex can't seem to tell the truth to me or the kids. He leaves out important information so that he can get his way. Gee, we aren't married anymore. Quit lying already!
You may never fully understand and neither will he. I just know that they don't set out to hurt you, it isn't that they plot to hurt you(I think that is more the Divorce part). They slip and then they have to cover that up and then it happens again and it just becomes a terrible cycle with nothing but pain for those involved.
It does get better eventually. Everyone has their own pace. I think it actually is like going through the 5 stages of dying. You are in the anger stage, just three more stages left to go!
love ya, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
