In Limbo

[cat04]

BM, I'm gonna try to write this so you can see it. LOL

D1,

Listen to Mach, Beginner, and the others that come. They will help you to help yourself.

I'm glad you see/understand the controlling. Mach is right, we have all been accused of it and we all, including our wonderful MLCer's, are. That is the first step. You can control no one but yourself. That goes for kids too.

I wish I could tell you that this will all be ok. I can't. No one here can. I wish I could tell you this won't be a long road. I can't. I wish I could tell you your marriage will be saved if you do this and that. I can't.

What I can tell you is, YOU will be ok.

This will be a long road and even though you want W to look at herself, she actually is. Just in a different way than you.

You will have good days and you will have bad days. So will she.

And here is the big surprise, this IS about you. Not her journey. That is her. But you are along for the ride and that ride is forcing you to look at you. So keep doing it.

Read the resources if you haven't. Lot's of wisdom there.

Watching the finances is important, but she may or may not spend like crazy. Just depends. They all differ.

It is hard with the kids, and they want mommy. Do your best to help them understand all of this. They will need you. And don't be surprised if they become more of a blessing to you than they already are. One of our benefits of this I like to think.