I can tell you that I have had every emotion possible toward my H...clearly she still has some feelings for you, and I think wants to do what the best thing is, she just doesn't know what the best thing is.
I am sorry that I won't be able to give much more input as my plate is really really full today and this weekend but I'll try.
Kudos that you could admit all the marriage problems. I have to say the first thing that stood out is that marriage counselor you guys went to the first time sucked!! Probably wasn't bad to leave that one, but it's too bad you didn't try someone else. Ah well, water under the bridge.
