Set a boundary. Tell him you only want to discuss kids and money right now. Everthing else is wasting time and energy you need for yourself. You enforce the boundary by only responding to communication about the kids or money.
Document his behavior. If he is acting reckless with the kids then document the pattern.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
