Ok, good. Listen, try to break up your posts in paragraphs. It's a little easier for the old folks like me to read.
Believe me when I tell you, that you have to let go of what you didnt realize in the past. It will eat you up inside. It took me a long time to figure that out. The sooner you begin that process, the better off you'll be.
Trust that you did the best that you could with the knowledge and tools that you had at the time. There is nothing you can do to change what happened. The only thing you can do is do better now.
I know that it might seem like getting the focus off your wife and onto you and the kids is counterproductive. But, she needs to go on this journey for herself. If you try to help her through it, it will interrupt the process.
So, good for you that you are looking at yourself and things you can change, GALing and getting in touch with your issues and feelings.
Do what you have to for you and your children.
This is probably one of the hardest things you will ever go through, but, it is an opportunity of a lifetime.
