Good for you for hooking up with a DB coach! This is what they do. I think it is money well spent - certainly in my case.
Oh, and yes, I wonder also my W is afraid that she will lose herself if we R as well. I suspect that is probably true. Good call. I wish I could assure her that she doesn't have to worry about that - that everything has changed, and it is not at all possible to go back to where we were. That's the part where you drop the old relationship, and "do-over" and start a new, better one. Which is why I want her to take that leap of faith - I sure don't want to be the one to dash her dreams away - I want to be there to help her and see them come true!
Me: 46 W: 46 M: 9.5 yrs D4, D9 D filed by her 11/3/08 Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09 Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09 W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09 3rd Bomb 9/2/09
