I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Thanks for the words, C-bart. I took the kids to the mountains yesterday - went horseback riding, etc - had a BLAST!

We had a great day, perfect weather, etc. I wish the W would have come (I didn't ask, but she has a blanket invitation) but we had a great time without her.

As we were leaving, W and I hugged, and as I did I told her "I'd really like to start working on things...." and she said "Yes, I know." I told her that it seems we're running out of time, and she said "I know... I'm still thinking through a couple of things." She then said, "I know... I know what you're saying..." OK, so I guessed by then I was done, so we left. We left on a pleasant note, no strange undertones or anything.

Before all of this, as I was on my way to pick up the kids in the morning, I called W and told her I was running a little late - and that I was going to stop by work (where I stash some food in the fridge) and make sandwiches for the kids for a lunch, etc. She said that was fine - so I then offered that in the interest of time - and no pressure - would she consider making a couple of sandwiches for them instead. She readily agreed, and I asked about a sandwich for me, too, and she said "Sure." I thought that was very kind, so while we were away we picked up a couple of chocolate truffles from a specialty shop for her, which were well received later.

I'm feeling better about things again. She was very friendly to me yesterday, and again today when I called her this morning just to say "hi", which I have been doing a couple of times a week for several weeks now.

I'm still worried about the "I'm still thinking through a couple of things" bit.... I know, worrying about it will not help any, but I just mention it as something she said to me. I wish I could have some more concrete feedback - this intangible stuff can really make your mind wander...

On the other hand, there's been no more talk about the D, or splitting things up, or splitting finances, etc. I guess my position, at this point, is still better than any obvious and outward actions of her moving forward with the D 'full speed ahead!' That alone gives me some hope.

Sometimes, it seems it's all about how you look at it.