Dreams of a New Normal...

[25yearsmlc]

Just tired of dealing with H. The money stuff is so stressful and I am resentful (despite my improved outlook)...

But after texting me about some money issues, he just texted "You doing ok otherwise?"

I want to say, "Oh, you mean other than my kids falling apart, no money to pay the bills, no job prospects, a house full of all of your sh*t and having to start from scratch? Yes, other than that, I'm fine."

But, I guess I should just not answer or say yes.

any thoughts?

OK OTHERWISE WHAT??? @#$%^!!!!! (SIGH)


A/K,
I do NOT know if this is right or not. Okay? I mean it, I am not sure...But damn....
I would have to succinctly touch that. Just say,
"Excuse me H, but are you really asking me how I am dealing with ALL Of this? OR did you want a one word answer that shows I acknowledge YOUR generous concern? B/C let's not do the fake act anymore, it's a MASK I don't want to wear when we are not in front of the kids. WE're both adults and you know you have hurt me and US though you will probably never know how much. SO be it. Let's move forward now without the pretense of things being "just great". I will be fine, b/c of who I AM.....and we will co-parent as best we can. And that's it. I wish the best for you but from now on, please spare me the feigned gestures of gentlmanly, husbandly concern. It's too much to ask of me at this point. As long as you don't act as if I have amnesia, we'll be fine and can go forward with what's left, which is our children and a good past long ago....

I am going with my gut and instinct here. DBing would be shorter. The alternative in the DB world would be something like "Sure I'm okay. I'm MORE Than okay! I'm great. Why wouldn't I be?" That's another option....I would not give a one word answer b/c he wants either that, or an answer that shows YOU think he's being there for you, and I could not stomach that. Sorry.

Your h really bugs me. Can you tell?
j-