DC, Im not trying to be insulting to you, or anything, but do you think that choosing these women who are eventually destructive to you is a pattern? Are you looking for someone you can save?
IT sounds like things are going well, I find that them being kind can be just as frustrating though! It must be nice for your boys to be able to see their sister like that, and to have your W acknowledge them!
This experience has definately cemented my belief that A's are ALWAYS destructive, and that I would Never be involved in one!
Yeah I think it has been a pattern. My past relationships have all followed the "white knight" pattern of finding someone who needs saving. Fortunately I've become self-aware of this and have started paying attention to warning signs.
Things are going well enough, which is odd. W acts extremely friendly after undergoing her mental examination which has to be stigmatizing in a sense. Then again - she generally acts friendly when she wants something or when she is getting ready to come after me in some other way.
This A has been destructive emotionally, financially, and especially for the children. It is sort of like a madness almost... where I'm aware of what is happening but it is almost as if I'm the only one who cares. Everyone else involved in the situation would rather pretend like W has no faults and everything is my fault, or vice-versa.
Legally things are proceeding well. I'm going to have to see how things are going forward. Trial is in 35 days or so, and I'm hoping for things to be finalized at that point. W sent me a nice text message with a but I chose not to reply to it. She accuses me of rape and then wants to be friends on alternate weeks. It is odd.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
but I chose not to reply to it. She accuses me of rape and then wants to be friends on alternate weeks. It is odd.