"I know about the infidelity and I will no longer work on a relationship when there are other parties involved."
you are still pursuing her? after all she did?
I mean if she apologized and said lets try and work this etc ... I can see maybe considering it for the boys, but man, she has to come to you.
I feel that you are going kill any respect she has left for you (if she has any left at all) by telling her that.
No I am not pursuing her. I haven't talked to her since Tues nite. I did respond to a tactical question about the kids with a very business like tactical response. Her's was full of pleasantries.
What I trying to create, from a negotiations sense, a way for her to make a choice to pursue me, if she chooses. I am done pursuing. I don't think getting a divorce is the best for the boys, but do not know if I have the strength/will to forgive her.
Right now, I just can not.
Who knows what the future may bring.......
I know it will be good. I just don't see her in it right now. Nor do I want her in it right now. But as I've been telling her, feelings change. We should not make such a life altering decision based on a feeling.....
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
