Another Waw

[Refuse to quit]

Went to get the kids yesterday and took the friend with me. W was very reserved at first but quickly changed to her old self in an instant. She was talking to both of us asking what we were doing and so on. I was being very elusive with any information. When it came time to leave I cut her off and said we had to go. Had a great time and when dropping the kids off later last night she was very reserved and cold again. I feel like the D is causing a lot of problems, decisions, hard times, etc. for her. I feel like she is trying to make them my problems by being angry or upset with me. For me they are not my issue. Left her and the kids and went to hang out with some friends. She texted me about a 1/2 hour after seeing her saying that our S left one of his toys in my car and was very upset. I did not respond. I feel like this was her reaching. Pulling the rope to see if I was there. A few months ago I would have dropped everything to go take it to him. Not now. She has toys in her car that he was missing too and I did not call her about it. Any ways I do feel like this was her trying to see if I was at the other end of the rope. I wasn't and hope this and my elusiveness will start her looking at herself. Any suggestions?
RTQ