Oh I just wanted add something with regards to custody. Someone I know, a father received full custody I mean a slam dunk, because one of the boys witnessed the mother playing the om’s skin flute.
Your wife seems kind of carless about that sort of thing. You may want to ask the boys a few very tactful questions. Question’s about when they are with her. Maybe she has had OM around them. Did one of them wake up in the middle of night to get some water and see something he should not have? Keep your eyes open. All it takes it one slip up like that.