Thanks for your input, guys. I never thought of me being a victim as a co-dependant. In fact, I thought of it as a weakness that I had to overcome. A personality flaw that I always knew I had, but it was never interfering enough with my life to do anything about. Until now. I should have done something about it earlier. But my point is that for me, it is a weakness, not an excuse. With the kids, I have always been the disciplinarian, and W was always the push over. So naturally they gravitate to her. They won't let me give them a bath, etc. without raising hell. But I like that idea of scheduling the kids' "maintenance".
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
