So, there isn't much to report on the GF front. She slept most of the day yesterday after we were up all night and I crashed out cold around 7 pm. We're in the final stages of planning of the party on Saturday and she's nervous b/c she wants it to be great!
However, the real reason I want to post this morning is b/c I'm a bit frustrated w/the situation w/my X. Now, before I continue, I always want to hear what people are thinking about GF and I, but this particular post is focused on X and her latest BF.
Ok, here is what is bugging me....the relationship w/X and I is a bit cold now. I'm trying to be cordial and communicate, but there is still such bitterness in X which comes across in her limited converstations w/me as well as her tense, rigid body language every time we meet to exchange D.
As far as X is concerned, I'm thinking of asking her if the two of us could meet up and clear the air of anything we have hanging over our heads so we can move forward and try to work constructively in regards to D. However, I'm not sure if this is a good idea or not. Would I be better served to write a letter and not expect any feedback or is it better to meet face-to-face, talk things out and get the feedback right there? I'm in a place where I can openly admit where I would change things in the D proceedings if given the chance to go back as well as to directly let her know what I think about her lies, insuations and mistruths. Should this be something that I get out and discuss w/her or is it just better left unsaid?
What do you think? I'm grappling w/it a lot.
Also, I'm not sure what to do about BF either. I really don't care to get along w/him b/c how he's been acting as of late lets me know he's a real a-hole. However, it is getting to the point where I'm not only annoyed, but offended as well.
Let me explain...whenever I drop off/pick up D, BF is there. He is always w/X like the two were Siamese twins or something. First, let me be clear, I could care less that X is in a relationship and in fact and SUPER glad she's got someone b/c that means she'll spend less time talking w/me (see whenever she's alone, she looks to me as someone she can talk to and buddy up with. In fact, she did this on her last trip to Indiana when I called one time to talk w/D and X wanted to be chatty and friendly on the phone. So, if she has a man around, she'll leave me alone...which is a very good thing).
Anyway, when I see them, I always greet BF and say hello or whatever. Lately, over the past month or so (maybe longer), BF has been completely rude and says NOTHING. He rarely, if ever even gives eye contact. It is completely rude and I am offended. However, am I making something out of nothing here?
I don't want D to see tension in our R, but right now, X and her BF are giving out some very negative signals whenever we're together in front of D. I'm pretty sure that if D isn't picking up on these now, she certainly will in the future.
So, is this something I should address or is it a situation where I just be myself and show consistency to D through my actions and words and let her make her own decisions about what and why X and BF are doing what they are doing?
If I do discuss it, do I only address it w/X or do I talk w/BF too? Again, not sure, but I am thinking a lot about it recently as it really does bug me.
As always, I'd love to hear what you think about this (as well as the other aspects of my life).
