ok so here is positive and I will do my best to put no spin on it at all into the neg realm....
get ready cause it's really really good.
since h's homecomming most of his conversation is based around his work and that's fine...
I don't mind listening to him gripe about this customer or that as he's venting to ME and it let's me know that he does infact have feelings...
well yesterday h (during his call to me) let me know that a customer was mad at him and explained why...their conversation etc. I didn't totally take his side..and let him know before opening my mouth about their semi tif that I wasn't taking sides but wanted to look at it from both sides..ok so I did fear afterwards that h might have taken that stance as me thinking poorly of him.
well h just called and told me that he called the customer back and apologized etc...
here's where it gets really good (and h has done this a few times with things) h expressed that perhaps his "attitude" with the customer was a result of his having just gotten off the phone (dealing with another issue) with a company as she called....thus some of the defensiveness spilled over. Thus h realizing that he is not the emotionaless cauldren that he has taught himself to be for the sake of his business, and that it is possible to not always act accordingly in one direction when being fired at from another.
a simple thing to most but for my h...HUGE...
ok so here's another positive and I'll leave out the but cause it's minor..
during h's call he said..."hey, how bout we take the kid's out to dinner"
ok now I know you'll wonder what's the but? just me being selfish and noting that it's not just me that he wants...but that aint such a bad thing either is it! some men would want to get away from the kids not subject themselves to the nerve wracking feat of taking a 4 year old and 2 year old out to a resteraunt.
