Hi T I think it's great that your W is very confused. I hate OPs. They are just such pieces of crap. My H's OW finally showed her a$$ and boy did it do a number on H. He felt pretty stupid. And all I could do was smile. I hate to say it, but I did. I couldn't help him. I warned him, along with many other friends. He didn't listen and in the end he said "I wish I could go back and in time and relive this past year." Right, me too buddy. Get the Dolorean and the Professor and some plutonium.