Moving on with my life!

[Startingover2]

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1815973&page=1

If Blindsided moved here... I should have been here a long time ago!

Would appreciate any and all feedback in dealing with this mess of a man my exh is.

Thanks so much!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Originally Posted By: Startingover2
He somehow thinks I should feel guilty for turning him in...I DONT. Makes me believe he doesn't get it yet, and will most likely go back to drinking and driving. Then after he left I was online and an article happend to pop up about a drunk woman with her 5 kids in her minivan slams into another car amd kills them all...then I know I did the right thing.

wow, what a huge confirmation. and your right, he doesn't get it. it's going to take a very humbling step for him to do that, and he definitely isn't ready to do that, so it seems.

we need to figure out a way for you to have mommy time. It is very important. You don't want to go thru life being bitter about having to do everything. I've been there. You won't be able to give your very best attitude to your child either.

does your dad watch her anymore? how is he anyways? I'm pretty sure that was you who's dad would help out in the beginning...correct me if I'm wrong.

[Startingover2]

UGGH...exh is trying to be my buddy again and I feel myself getting sucked back in.

He is having some real problems with his oldest d14. She gets alot more freedom at her mothers and quite frankly I think the relationship between her and exh is so tense she doesn't want to be with him much anymore. Both of his kids really, but mostly the oldest. He just doesn't get that his choices, his behaviors, and his lifestyle has pushed them farther and farther away. He says they don't want to be with him because he doesn't have his license (aka my fault). I told him that made no sense.

He has been talking with me alot about the situation his d14 is having and is going 'make them come on his nights whether they want to or not'. Yeah, force them...that'll work! I did say once that I am surprised they don't want to be there as they always liked to be with us! He said..."yeah, I have alot of regrets and did some stupid stuff but I am not a bad person" I asked if he was happy and he responded with "no, not really. Just surviving for now. I just want to get back in my kids life and be with them as much as possible." I bet the new gf would love to hear that.

Why does he talk to me about this stuff? Why can't he talk to her about it?

[S.T. _I Made It!]

well, I'm sure he sometimes comes to you because you were close to him. all these new girls really don't mean anything to him, they are just things that he thinks will make his life great but it's not going to work.

Just see him with pity. he IS pitiful right now really. and you are so past what he is. I think you did good in the convo.

[Startingover2]

Hes seriously freaky! Getting restless again. I can tell. Texting me more at night, which means after gf drives him to and from his meetings she is dismissed and sent home. He is trying really hard to suck me back in. Telling me how unhappy he is with his life.

Be strong. Be strong. Be strong.

[blindsided1]

Yaaaaay, you're here!!! We're neighbors again. Dont let him suck you in. ExH called yesterday morning and started the sex crap again with me. So, Sunday we get in a fight and by Wednesday he's propositioning me, again. Wants me to pick K up on Sat(we have a bday party for a couple hours)wearing no bra. He's weird. Why? So, he can grab my breasts in the parking lot of Kaiser Permanente? The funniest thing I read is how OW answered one of those stupid quizzes on FB (yes, still looking sometimes - more than I should). The question was "What was the last thing you were extremely disappointed by?" She wrote "When ExH and Blindsided (yes, she actually used my name) got in a huge fight on Sunday because she called him a bad dad for not bringing her shorts back" OMG. Are you kidding me? Like I would call him a bad dad because he didn't bring K's shorts with him. So, 1) ExH is totally blowing stuff out of proportion and even lying about our exchanges - makes sense...he has to pretend that he despises me so she doesn't get jealous AND 2) is that really something that made OW extremely disappointed. Give me a break. I know she puts that stuff up there FOR ME to read. That's why I never respond anymore.

Ridiculous.

SO2 - you are doing the right thing. Don't let him bait you. There is soooo much more work for him to do before you even CONSIDER letting him be a part of your life or that close to your heart, again. Just take it with a grain of salt.

Glad you're here. Sorry it took me so long. xoxox

[S.T. _I Made It!]

you ARE strong! tell yourself you ARE! and if you need to, distract yourself.

you can do it.

[Startingover2]

Sucking me in to the vortex! Must fight it hard! LOL

He came for a visit yesterday (yes, Thursday!). I forgot what day it was and when he said he was coming down I just said ok. Friendly, nice, talkative. We did talk alot about the d14. She is really taking a bad road already and if someone doesn't rein her in its not going to be pretty.

Went to dinner with my daughter and baby. He texted right in the middle of dinner and asked where we were and I told him. He assumed we were with my bf. I just laughed and said 'yeah'/

Later last night he started texting about my bf...and I finally answered honestly about that. Probably shouldn't have, but I did.

"our daughter got screwed out of a real family. She is the most important thing to me and I owe it to her to make her life as undysfunctional and uncomplicated as possible. Dating would only complicate things."

His response? "I understand. I want to spend as much time with her as I can and we can see where it goes from there."

WTF does that mean? We...? What is scary about exh is he can pretend like he is Mr. doing the right thing and then use it to do something vindictive.

I also asked him if his kids were there and he said no. I was feeling smarta** like and I asked where the gf was...

Him:i dont know why?
Me:you don't know where she is?
Him:no, stop!
Me: LOL weird.

Yeah, I need to back out. I am treading on dangerous waters. Just bored I guess and its nice to have someone to talk to even though its him and he is so toxic.

[volleydog]

Why on Earth do you answer those texts?????? You know you need to stop it, you're letting him suck you into the vortex.

[sandycay]

Hey BS,

I follow your thread from time to time and just wanted you to know if you go to or OW goes to stalkercheck dot com it will show you or her who views her FB account... if she knows about that website she knows your checking it out. It shows you in order who views your site the most.

Take care.