Your nickname and your post really touched home! I had the opportunity to speak with my W a week ago about the same thing. I told her it's too bad that the LBS is the one that does all the studying and learning about what a M should be. The WAS should do all the studying BEFORE they leave. Then I thanked her for making me a better man. She told me that her BF was a LBS, that's why she is sure her will treat her good, and assured me that I will make my next wife a good husband!
THIS IS NUTS!...she's nuts! The whole world is NUTS! Everyone but me that is!