my last thread

[sage]

welll..I think I'm sort of in the minority here but I don't think your h needs a 2x4. IMHO, approaching him that way hasn't worked terribly well in the past (he lapses into defensive mode and you get frustrated?) -- though maybe you have seen more positives after the confrontation?

I think a mixture of upping the verbal appreciation to h, you continuing your practice of looking for positives (including opening your mind as you have been doing to seeing positives that may not be in your LL) and identifying small things that you want to change and going after them DB style is the way to go.

I'd break stuff down into tangibles and go from there.

My 2 cents.
Sage