CIPA You can call me, day or night. Any day of the week. I get random calls all the time, all day, all night. DO not look at the clock and think "oh, I shouldn't call right now." The only reason I wouldn't answer is if I'm asleep and in that case, no harm done. If's 2 am, I hear the phone, I'm going to answer. You call me, whenever you want or need to.
I tend to agree that you should avoid her this weekend. If you are feeling vindictive, and I know I would be, not talking to her for the weekend you are home is going to cause a lot of angst on her part. On your part, it gives you time to maybe not calm down, but to think it through and get better control which is what I now think you are getting. Right now she's trying to play "who's got a bigger you know what." Teach her, you do. Teach her, you are in control of you and no one else. Teach her, you are not going to react to her and her crap. Teach her, you now have the ball in your court and for the time being you feel like just taking some practice shots on your own. Let her fester and wonder what's going to be coming next.
Consider this: You have a 100% guarantee that she's going to want to come home, she's going to want to work this out. It's going to be a few months down the line.....but eventually she will try to make amends and reconcile. HOW WOULD YOU ACT RIGHT NOW? And go with it.
At this point, what has really changed CIPA? As painful as it is, what's changed is that you now know everything....and in order to really reconcile, to make this marriage stronger than it's ever been, you were going to have to know that this happened. Now you know. Charge forward. If you REALLY want a divorce, then do it. I just feel in my heart that you don't. And in my opinion that makes you an amazing husband and an amazing father and an amazing person.
