Can anyone who has successfully detached from their spouses and who have kids give me some ideas or examples of how you did it?
I know this is going to sound simple you just have to decide to do it. When i used to know I was going to see my W I'd get nervous about what I was going to do or say, whatever...Now it's like seeing an acquaintance it's nice to see her talk a little but not much more.
You just have to realize, and it's repeated here 1,000,000 times a day, you can only control you. Like you I used to think detachment was cold and heartless, but it's not, it's taking care of yourself.
Now don't get me wrong if my W came to me and said she wanted to work, and I mean work on the M I would absolutely take her up on it but if not I good with it.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
