We are past the spinach debacle. Don't know if she's noticed yet that there is now one, freshly opened bag in the garage refigerator. But, I don't care.
On a sadder note, the house phone rang this am at 6:15 - which is never good. My grandfather (dad's father) passed away this morning at around 6:00 am. While it is always sad when you lose a loved one, he had been in poor health for the last few years and it was just his time. Either later today or first thing tomorrow morning, I will be making the 3-4 hour drive to the town where my family lives for the funeral and to be there for my grandmother (they had been married for over 60 years and were a shining example of how a married couple should be - not perfect, but happy).
I will probably go down alone, then have W and the kids come down for the funeral. There really is not a lot for the kids to do, and I do not want them around a bunch of bummed out adults and old people. I also don't want W around all of my family (they know we are having problems), lest one of them slip up and try to "help" me. So, the less she is around them, the better. Plus, I don't want her to feel uncomfortable around them - I don't know why I am concerned about that though, but I am.
I told W this morning about my grandfather's passing, and she said she was sorry and asked what she could do to help. It didn't occur to me at the time, but she did not reach out to touch me, hug me or kiss me. That only occurred to me after I had headed off to the shower to get ready. It doesn't really disappoint me. I actually thought it was odd how I have become so used to not having that that it did NOT strike me as unusual at the time (in fact, it didn't even occur to me at the time). Suppose it's the detachment.
Anyway, I will miss my grandfather, but he was ready to move on - he told me that on the last few visits I had with him. He's in a better place.
For some reason, I felt compelled to pick up two dozen doughnuts for my office this morning. I just felt like doing something little that might brighten their day. Felt good.
